Before you ask – no, Jeremy and I are not expecting another little one. We are 100% sure that we’re done. Well, Jeremy is 100% sure. I’m more like 99% sure…except on those nights that I’m awake most of the night trying to get my two year old to stay in his bed – THEN I’m 100% sure.
I’ve always loved names. Growing up I had so much fun naming all of my baby dolls. I couldn’t wait to become a mom and name my children. I spent a lot of my childhood dreaming of baby names AND I was the crazy teenager who would look at baby names as a hobby. Yes, just for fun. But when Jeremy and I became expecting parents, I lost all my nerve. Suddenly all of the names I had fallen in love with over the years seemed so…not good enough. Naming a baby is tough. Much tougher than I thought it would ever be. Not only do you have to find a name that you’re cool with using over and over, all day, and forever. But you feel pressure to find one that your family loves too. And one that society deems as “acceptable” and if you’re really lucky “awesome.”
We actually chose to keep both of our kid’s names a secret until they were born. It took us a while to come up with their names, but once we decided on them it was SO hard to not share it with friends and family. But their names were so unique that we felt it would be better if there was a face attached to the name when they heard it for the first time.
We also chose not to name our kids after anyone in particular. We would’ve LOVED to name our kids after the people that we love…but how could we choose? We have so many family members that we love and look up to that it would’ve been way too hard to only pick one or two. And then we really didn’t want anyone to have hurt feelings on not being chosen.
SHADE EISLEY KATE
SHADE – As crazy as it sounds, Shade was a name that Jeremy came up with while creating a character for the video game Dragon Age. I thought it was an interesting choice and I suggested it for a future baby name. He said he liked it, but then when we found out we were expecting a girl, I almost chickened out. I was worried about what friends and family would think. And I was worried that she would be made fun of in school. Jeremy wasn’t worried about any of this. I basically had to push myself to get over the worry. I’m now fiercely protective of this name. She is Shade through and through. And I love that she will probably never share a first name with someone else in her school.What’s funny is that when she turned four, her favorite thing in the world was The Octonauts. And I just so happened to find a book called “The Octonauts and the Sea of Shade.” It’s all about how The Octonauts have to travel to the Sea of Shade to talk to the Shade King about letting the shadows come back. Everyone misses their shade and their shadows. I thought, YES! THIS BOOK IS AWESOME! And Shade is tickled pink every time we read it. She loves it.EISLEY – This is a middle name that I chose because I LOVE how Shade and Eisley flow together. Eisley is actually from Star Wars. It comes from Mos Eisley which is a spaceport on Tatooine. I know, Jeremy and I are true nerds.KATE – This I added to her name because both Shade and Eisley are such unusual names that the worrywart in me wanted her to have a “normal” name to fall back on. But I absolutely love the name Kate. I can’t imagine her name without it. And I was up in the middle of the night feeding newborn Shade while watching Kate Middleton marry Prince William. So I thought that was pretty cool.
ATLAS ARKHAM LOGAN
ATLAS – Oh, Atlas. Your name was supposed to be Seth, Silas, Toby, Ridley, and countless other names I came up with while growing up. But I’m glad I didn’t go with any of those. When we found out we were expecting a boy, I realized that none of those names fit him at all, but I was having a hard time coming up with a first name that matched Shade. I suggested Atlas to Jeremy as a middle name one night and he said he actually liked it better as a first name. Which made me wonder why I didn’t think of that.
I suggested Atlas because Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand is Jeremy’s favorite book and it’s one that he shared with me while we were dating. (If you’ve seen the size of this book then you’ll understand my jaw dropping astonishment that he was letting me BORROW this book to read. I figured he must want to keep me around for a while.) The myth of “Atlas” is used as a metaphor throughout the whole book.
However, there is one downside to naming your kid Atlas if he has an older brother/sister. Shade called him “ass” for the first year of his life because she couldn’t pronounce Atlas yet. Oops!ARKHAM – Of course there is the Batman association! I loved this name ever since I first heard it. I love Harley Quinn and the fact that she was treating Joker at the Arkham Asylum when she fell in love with him. But what sealed the deal was that the name Arkham was actually created by H. P. Lovecraft. Another of my husband’s favorite authors. It’s a fictional town in Massachusetts where Lovecraft set a lot of his horror stories. I loved the way that it worked out because Eisley is a fictional place and so is Arkham.LOGAN – And of course I wanted a third name for Atlas as well. One that was strong enough to stand as a first name if he ever wanted to use it as such. I toyed with all of those potential first names that I turned down. And I fiddled with a few other one syllable names to match Kate, but nothing else felt like Logan. I thought that even if my kids absolutely hated their first names, Kate and Logan would make me just as happy as Shade and Atlas. And then there’s Wolverine whose real name is Logan! So, yep, it was a winner.As a mom, I am still worried about bullies in school and how the kids will deal with being picked on for their names. Jeremy always reassures me that even if they’re not picked on for their names then they’ll be picked on for something else. I still worry, but I hope I can equip them with what they need to deal with issues like that.
In the end, none of that really matters. Their names suit them. I have no doubt in my mind that they were meant to be Shade Eisley Kate and Atlas Arkham Logan. And I know they’ll probably have a time when they’ll hate their names. I think most people go through that at some point. I just hope that they eventually grow to love their names as much as Jeremy and I do.
So if you have little ones, how did you come up with their names? I’d love to hear your baby name story! And if you don’t have little ones yet, do you have favorite names already picked out? Or does baby naming even cross your mind?